Thursday, January 9, 2014

Gabrielle Union In Glamour: Learn From My Relationship Mistakes

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"When life gives you lemons, make lemonade"...

Lately everyone has been going gabba-gabba over 'Being Mary Jane' star Gabrielle Union.

From her recent engagement (and big fat million dollar engagement ring!) to Miami Heat baller Dwyane Wade, the endless chatter surrounding the b-ball players infamous love child, to most recently having her new show, 'Being Mary Jane', debut as the #1 original drama series on ALL cable(ranking in 5 million viewers the first night); I'd like to think this chick represents the epitome of going hard or going home.

Recently the 41-year-old hottie sat down with Glamour magazine to discuss the wisdom she's received from her previous marriage, girlfriends, and long time relationship with fiancé D-Wade.

Take a look at some of the starlets Do's and Don'ts for maintaining a successful relationship below.

Do's:

DO forget your "type." It worked for me. When I met Dwyane, his "résumé" looked like crap: athlete, going through a divorce, nine years younger than me. None of that screamed, "Let's have a lasting relationship." Then, after I had a heart-crushing breakup with yet another immature jerk, I thought, it can't be any worse if I date a fetus. Let's just see what happens. Turned out he'd been on his own since he was 15. He had wisdom that comes with facing an insane amount of adversity. He's sweet, funny, honest about his shortcomings. When I put my preconceived notions to the side, I found someone cool.

DO show him your feelings. Daily. Dwyane generally gets up before I do to go to the gym, and he's never left without kissing me and telling me he loves me. As for me, I am complimentary to the point where I am almost a little Chester the Molester-y. I think he's so delicious. Watching him get out of the shower never gets old. Never. It's not like he ever wonders what I'm thinking, but usually he's thinking, She needs a cold shower!

Don'ts:

DON'T put up with a friend-versus-boyfriend tug-of-war. Some friends act possessive and say, "You're not spending enough time with me." Huh? Remember when we made our vision boards and the dude was in the middle? You're supposed to be happy for me. Thankfully, my girls are like, "High-five!" And D likes to be around them too. If there's weirdness, either something's wrong with the friends—or the boy. Investigate. And sift accordingly.

DON'T write off an ex (or get back together) without really thinking it through. When you're debating whether to go backward or forward, you have to look at the original issue. [When Dwyane and I broke up briefly in 2013], it was because of distance and scheduling. I finished filming the show, then I flew to Vegas right away to start shooting Think Like a Man Too. I couldn't take time off, and I missed some quality togetherness we desperately needed. Over the summer, I reassessed priorities. I'd always wanted an awesome career with back-to-back projects, but I realized I wasn't willing to sacrifice my relationship for it. Moving forward, I decided my work schedule has to make sense for our family. Bottom line: If an issue's a deal breaker, it's a deal breaker. If your relationship isn't something you're willing to give up and you can compromise, do so.

I think that marks for some pretty sound advice. But...why is Rihanna and Chris Brown's "Nobody's Business" song playing in my head right now? Gabby...D-Wade...are ya'll trying to tell us something?

via Glamour

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